Are you or someone you know in an unhealthy relationship? Recognizing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and traits of abuse, reach out. There is help available.
Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship:
1. He Blames You for His Problems, Feelings and Actions
An abusive man will make the woman believe that his abusive behavior is her fault. “You made me angry!” or “If only you had just kept your mouth shut!” he might yell at her. These angry words coupled with the abuse will unfortunately convince an already oppressed woman that her man’s behavior is her fault. A sad scenario, but it is very common behind closed doors.
2. He Wants to Keep You to Himself
One of the signs of an abusive relationship is not being able to maintain friendships and other relationships. Being completely isolated from your friends and loved ones will cause a woman to fail to report abuse. An abusive spouse or live-in partner will make sure that a woman is isolated from her friends and family. How so? He will get angry and irritated each time she wants to spend time away from him with her friends and/or family. He will more than likely pick fights each and every time or even catch an attitude if she wants to go out with a girlfriend or family member. The goal is to cause so much trouble she wouldn’t want to go anywhere or see anyone but him.
3. He’s Controlling and Jealous
An abusive man will be very possessive and jealous of his girlfriend or wife. Time will tell how intense these two characteristics become. No it’s not adorable, nor cute…they are dangerous warning signs. If you see your man displaying abusive, possessive, and jealous behavior, do not wait until it’s too late to leave this abusive relationship.
Some women make the mistake of waiting too long or feeling like he will change. In most cases, abusive men have their ways deeply entrenched, and it’ll take divine intervention to get that man to change. If you’ve experienced these signs of an abusive relationship, don’t wait, get away as fast as you can.